If I had known this back then,
I wouldn’t have filed for divorce.
2008 wasn’t just the year of the financial crisis. It was also the year of a personal crisis: the year I filed for divorce.
Not without trying, though: I had read books, taken courses, and experimented with different approaches. All in an attempt to keep my family together.
But the truth was: the intimacy between me and my husband hadn’t been working for years, and 2008 was the year when I couldn’t take it anymore. Not being able to express my sensuality, my passion, my desires made me feel like a withering flower. We had communication issues, and the times we managed to communicate, our desires seemed too out of sync.
The guilt and pain from breaking up my family was almost unbearable. But the pain of pretending was even worse.
And I knew I couldn’t be the mother I was meant to be while suppressing such an important aspect of myself – nor was it something I wanted to model for my children. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I barely recognized my reflection. The disappointment, resentment, and anger I saw in the person looking back at me almost scared me. I missed who I used to be: positive, joyful, and free.
At the time, personal development and “alternative” healing modalities weren’t new to me. I had been working as a massage therapist for many years and was certified in reflexology, aromatherapy, shiatsu, thai massage, nutrition, and reiki, to name a few.
All of those are fantastic modalities! But it wasn’t until long after my divorce, in 2021, that I discovered something that would change my life forever: The Erotic Blueprints.
Use these as a starting point to explore your needs and desires.
The Erotic Blueprints are the key to unlock access to your deep, most satisfying pleasure and to deeply connect with your partner. It’s a way to navigate and enjoy each other's erotic personalities and preferences.
So I learned all about the Erotic Blueprints
When you understand your own dominant blueprint, it becomes a roadmap for how to experience pleasure YOUR way, so you can open up the pathways to orgasmic bliss. When you understand your partner’s dominant blueprint, it’s like having a Google Translate for your desires, helping you communicate and understand each other’s preferences!
I describe this fascinating framework more in-depth on the Erotic Blueprints page. For now, I just want to share how transformative they’ve been to me. Suddenly, I had a tool to understand my erotic personality – something that had seemed so complicated up to that point. As if the very thing that gives us life were a burden.
And the blueprints brought me to a painful realization:
If I had known this back then, I wouldn’t have filed for divorce.
Followed by: If all couples knew about this, far fewer would file for divorce.
Not only did the Erotic Blueprints guide me back home, to my own sensual self and erotic personality – they brought me to my mission in life: to help couples stay together.
I soon became a certified Erotic Blueprints coach, trained by the founder, Jaiya Ma. And though I, of course, want to help women experience more pleasure and erotic fulfillment, my bigger why is that I want to help keep families together. To increase the joy and happiness of couples.
I believe that sensuality is our 7th sense (intuition being the 6th) that influences EVERYTHING else! I’ve seen this in the many women I’ve had the privilege to work with. When you connect with your erotic personality, you connect with life itself, and almost miraculous transformations take place in all areas of life. And this daily access to the erotic gives you a window into your life purpose, your mission, as it did for me. That’s because our erotic force is the force of life itself.
Thank you for reading my story. It would be my honor to support you on your intimacy journey! Book a call today to see if we're a good fit.
If you are a mature woman in a long-term relationship who longs to rekindle the passion and connection you once had with your partner, I'd love to help.
I envision a world where sensuality is recognized as our 7th sense, enabling a new and profound way of feeling and existing to navigate the world and our relationships.
In this world, we know who we are and we’re all fully accepted. We feel safe and confident to speak up for our desires and boundaries, and we communicate with clarity, acceptance, and love.
Success Stories
I loved this process ... I now feel so calm, so peaceful, so grounded. It's interesting that I can think about those situations that would make me angry and just feel so much peace right now.
Alyce E.
Working with Jay and the erotic blueprint model helped me understand more clearly how I prefer to be interacted with and connect intimately not only in a romantic sense, but also in platonic relationships. The technique helped me move past my unconscious blocks that tripped me up in communicating clearly and having the confidence in asking for what I need.
Kim K.
I had worked with Jay intermittently for a few years. But then there was an event in my family that caused me lots of anger. I sought out Jay for help. Within no time at all, I was able to get my anger under control and relax and refocus on self-care.
Betty B.
Coaching Package Details
If you want to learn the language of your body and pleasure, deepen your confidence in bed, and feel desired by your partner, I’d love to support you! Book a call to discover how we could work together.
Duration
6 months
What's Included
A Passionate Possibilities Call to clarify your desires.
5 Accelerated Evolution Sessions to dismantle resistances.
Monthly 1-hour coaching calls.
A transformative half-day immersion session.
Completion and Integration Call for next steps.
Direct email/text access for immediate feedback.
Exciting rewards for completing challenges.
Activities Each Month
1. Deliciously Determining Your Erotic Blueprint: Understand your pleasures and create deep connections.
2. Pleasure Platter: What’s on the MenuKeep joy alive and become magnetic to your partner.
3. Tricks of the Tongue: Seductive LanguageMaster flirting to re-spark passion in your relationship.
4. Pleasure Principle: Healing Your BlueprintsOvercome shadows and claim your authentic sexuality.
5. Double Dare You: Expand Your BlueprintEndless excitement and deeper connections await.
6. Becoming the Author of Your Erotic Story: Realize the endless possibilities of a lifetime of hot sex.
Fast-Action Bonuses
Access to exclusive Erotic Blueprint videos and resources.
Erotic Freedom Club membership for ongoing support.
10 comprehensive Erotic Blueprint guides.
2-hour Color Reading to discover your and your partner’s points of coherence and points of challenge.
A personalized healing meditation.
